Finding out the hard way. . .is. . .very hard indeed

So- one of the things that makes it difficult to discover any support for the suspisions you may have about your own personal CWOAS. . .or CWOAP if you prefer, is that in today's day and age. . .so many secrets can be kept in so MANY places. . .and a password or a withheld authorization can put the brakes on any voyage of discovery. . .

Case in point- when I noticed a quadruple increase in the cell phone bill. . .with the number of texts being sent from his phone in the thousands. . .I was amazed and wanted to see the bill- thought it was one of those errors you hear about. . .where the people are shocked by it. . .umm no such luck-

The following is just one of the exchanges I had with the cell phone company, which I will call Pew Ess Smellular. . .in order to keep things confiential

Chirpy Customer service voice- Thanks for calling Pew Ess Smellular, we are happy to serve you, how may I help you?

Me- I have a question about our bill

CCsv- Can I have the number?

I give it

CCsv- Oh, I'm sorry. . .but only the account holder (CWOAS) can access this account's details.

Me- Well, this particular account holder is using this phone to meet people online and leaving my childern with them in parks. . .I need to know what he is doing with this phone!

CCsv- I am really REALLY sorry. . .but I cannot help you

Me- he has racked up 10s of THOUSANDS of dollars on a credit card I did not know he had, he has been lying to me and has been leaving my children with strangers. . .why does HE get to be protected. . .I am the PRIMARY NAME ON THE ACCOUNT THAT PAYS THIS FUCKING BILL!! I want answers. I WANT THE TRUTH. . .sobbing ensues. . .

Less CCsv- I really am sorry, but you need to have him call and ask for this himself. . .(ummm hello, HE IS FUCKING OTHER WOMEN AND USING THIS PHONE THAT I HELP PAY FOR TO SET THE MEETINGS UP!!!!!!)

Me- We have 6 kids, my son is autistic, he is using them like props to get women. . .and HE is the one with protection?????? How do you sleep at night?????

WAAAAAAY less CCsv- I really am sorry. . .

Me- crying with REAL gusto

CCsv- Is there anything else I can help you with?

Me- Um you did not help me at all. . .

CCsv- Well, thank you for calling Pew Ess Smellular. . .where you are a valued customer (yes, she REALLY said that!!!!)

I never did get those records. . .but knew just the same what was going on. . .

So- if you are still wondering. . .hope to G-d you have a real joint account. . .